You cherish the years when they were innocent, affectionate and eager to cuddle. Here are some tips to help you keep in touch with your teenage children.
1. Organize family meals
There is something comforting about families coming together to eat, perhaps because this tradition is disappearing. The evening meal is often the only time of the day when the whole family meets. Make it a family affair. Take the opportunity to share the news of the day, develop projects for the weekend, and enjoy the company of others. Research shows that teens who eat with their family at least a few times a week are less likely to smoke and use drugs and are more successful in their exams.
2. Take a distance while staying close
It is normal for teens to spend more time with their friends than with their parents. But do not think that your role as a parent is diminishing for this reason. Look for ways to stay involved in your children’s lives. For example, even if five-hour tea is a thing of the past, get to know your children’s friends by inviting them after school. Staying here is a challenge, but it is an important way to improve the relationship with your child.
3. Share your emotions
Of course, keep the personal aspect of the intimate subjects to yourself, but be sure to admit that you, too, occasionally may experience anger, anguish, or have a hard time. In short, show your teen that you are not only a parent, but also a human being. Not only will your child feel closer to you, but he may have enough confidence to share his difficulties occasionally.
4. Find their opinion
Teens have an opinion about everything and they are not afraid to share it. Allow them to decide independently. For example, let them decide when and where to study, how to dress, what to do after school. However, some decisions must be non-negotiable: it is up to the parent to set boundaries, to protect the health, safety and well-being of their child, at any age. It may be curfew, alcohol and sexual activity, questions about education and university.
5. Trust your child’s choices
Of course, they will err on occasion. And especially if they are 18, let them solve the problems in their own way. At their age, you probably wanted your parents to do the same.
6. Announce your visit
If your child is an adult, always call before visiting, unless absolutely necessary. If you have a teenager, always hit before entering his room.
7. Respect their privacy
Do not read his diary or harass him with questions. If you are worried about his behavior, ask him directly this question of four words: can we talk about it? For example: “I find you very quiet lately and that concerns me. Can we talk about it? ”
8. Be honest
Many parents make compliments when they should, but also when they should not. This attitude undermines confidence. If your compliments are as sincere as your critics, your child will learn that he can trust you.